Assumptions Really Drive Wedges

Assumptions are a killer to relationships. We assign certain thoughts, attitudes, or motives to a persons words, actions, or choices, that often are simply very incorrect. I know this because the assumptions people make about me are often very skewed. So that tells me that my assumptions about others are the same. We have too little information.... and even if we have a lot of tidbits, we can never really know anyone's mind, motives, or heart. We assign 'reasons' to people, that we have little reason to reason, from our reasoning. ;-) Assumptions are rarely favorable ones. And what happens is we interact with people via that pre-printed script that we have in our head, and therefore we never really hear or truly see the person in front of us. We are speaking, acting and reacting on that script.... We can't really let new relational/personal data it, nor process it, until we let go of the assumption and listen. So can we stop assuming so much? Can I stop setting myself up as a judge with limited information, and no vision into the mind or heart of another, and learn to love instead?

"...... when you assume you make an 'ass' out of 'U' and 'me.'.... "You don't really believe it's a coincidence that the word ass is contained within the word assume ...do you?"

(M. C. Lang. The Bastard Tree)