Is The Task More Important Than Relationship?

 I found this a very insightful comment. This is why you feel so alone when you step outside the box, and chose to stop wasting your life on the treadmill of programs that end up being more "busy" than fruitful.

Your relationships are exposed for what they really are.... It hurts.
Your only connecting point is the common task.... and when you no longer serve to support the task with me, I have no time for you.... I'm too busy picking up YOUR slack (hear resentment) for having stopped (A little judgment) doing your part (Guilt) in this VERY important task.
Your spiritual health is measured by how much of this "Stuff" you participate in, and manage.  Your valu to us here, is measured by the same. 

"....then we start coming into a wider space, and not everybody who we hoped would come into that wider space with us, came. And so, we did find, whether it was ministry opportunities or relationships, we found our world growing smaller. The people we thought were friends didn't turned out to be......Many of those friendships were tasked based, conformity based, relationships, and once we weren't on the the same task, the friendships drift apart. That is just part of the way we humans organize ourselves. We like to be task oriented and we've got people on a similar task, we'll find relationship.
What this truly shows, beneath the surface, the task was more important than the relationship. And I think what Jesus sturs in our life is that the relationships become more important than the tasks. Maybe even said, the relationship becomes the task."

 (Podcast Feb 3, The God Journey. Wayne Jacobson)