The Invisible Humanitarian: What to "GIVE UP" Is A More Difficult Decision Than Deciding What to Do

"When you begin to think outside the box, you often become some other "leaders" lousy follower. That usually costs something" (Andy Rayner)

"Our guardian angels are bored." (Mike Foster)

It's where I feel I'm at these days. “In the second half of life, it is good just to be a part of the general dance. We do not have to stand out, make defining moves, or be better than anyone else on the dance floor. Life is more participatory than assertive, and there is no need for strong or further self-definition” (Falling Upward. Richard Rohr.120).

Monday, July 22, 2013

What to "GIVE UP" Is A More Difficult Decision Than Deciding What to Do

“It’s not hard to decide what you want your life to be about. What’s hard, is figuring out what you’re willing to give up in order to do the things you really care about.” (Bittersweet. Shauna Niequist)

WOW..... what a mouth full this quote is.
I remember wrestling with that very issue between 2003-2005. 2005 was when the hard choice was finally made to step off all the boards, committees, events and other many normal western things considered service (Most of which were truly "Good" things - an odd had been truly a waste of time) in order to make room in our lives for Africa.

Stepping out of "good things" brings criticism, and misunderstanding too, because you let a lot of people down on those "Teams". You leave holes and gaps to be filled and that is inconvenient to those people. They were , "counting on you". You are no longer a good "team player" because you walked away. Frankly what you really care about, may not be what others care about.

The "giving up" years were the hardest three or four years of my life, and i'm not certain I'll ever be the same again. What we need to begin is the easy decision. What to "give up" are the real tough ones.

"Giving up" things really highlights the nature of relationships and friends you really have too. Some people genuinely will miss you, wish you well, even wish to help you in some way. Others get hostile because you are dropping the most essential, life changing, church restoring, kingdom thing in the world. Others you simply never hear from again, because you were not really in a relationship, you interacted (As courteous, enjoyable and delightful as those interactions may have been) only because you were a cog in the machine beside them, or for them. Once you are no longer serving the machines purpose, they no longer have the time of day for you. The only connection we really had was the job.

"Giving up", bring about an insightful and needed lesson about relationships, one we need to experience I think. I think everyone needs to "give up" and change gears once or twice in their life time.
AJ
The Wandering Nomad!

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J. R.R. Tolkien - Peace is Never Free

"………….. and there in that pleasant corner of the world they plied their well-ordered business of living, and they heeded less and less the world outside where dark things moved, until they came to think that peace and plenty were the rule in Middle-earth and the right of all sensible folk. They forgot or ignored what little they had ever known of the Guardians, and of the labours of those that made possible the long peace of the Shire. They were, in fact, sheltered, but they had ceased to remember it."

J. R.R. Tolkien "The Fellowship of the Ring" , 1985, George & Allen & Urwin Pub LTD(Page 22-23 prologue)

Who Is This Dude?

West African humanitarian NGO - Canadian commercial fishing Captain (Yep with his own boat -SCARY). Who writes too much, too poorly, over analyzes human religious behavior (NOT ACCEPTABLE), probably loves Africa WAY too much, outgrew the church container and is finally living free from the busy western paradigm of "program driven" attractional institutional church management (You've got to be bitter, angry or hurt! NOPE!), But is still a Christian, active in service, and is part of a "church" family- just not one that looks like yours with an address, parking lot and shingle out front, is all (That's a bit crazy and REALLY Suspicious). Who keeps pointing to Jesus (Come on, there's got to be more to it than that), as no one needs to see me, just him. LOVES being lost in a conversation, a book, at sea, in the bush of West Africa, and especially on a motorcycle (I knew it - you're a freaking HIPPIE). Is happy knee deep in fish and friendship. Have an AMAZING WOMAN walking with me. "Every foreign land is to them as their native country and every country of their birth as a land of strangers." Diognetus

Challenging Life's Platitudes and Seeking Perspective!

"I have walked that long road to freedom. .....I have taken a moment here to rest........But I can rest only for a moment, for with freedom come responsibilities, and I dare not linger, for my long walk is not yet ended." Nelson Mandela. “Long Walk to Freedom”, p625, 1994, Little, Brown & company.

"Travel is fatal to prejudice, bigotry, and narrow-mindedness, and many of our people need it sorely on these accounts. Broad, wholesome, charitable views of men and things cannot be acquired by vegetating in one little corner of the earth all one’s lifetime." - Mark Twain

"What is the point of all of this? To destroy a man who seeks the truth or to destroy the truth so no man can seek it. Either way, you loose"
Agent Rheas, X Files , "The Truth" Season 9, Episode 19, 20, 2003, Time 53.25

"Sometimes I'd like to ask God why He allows poverty, famine and injustice when He could do something about it. But I'm afraid God might ask me the same question." Amy Campbell

"One meets his destiny often on the road he takes to avoid it." French Proverb

"When you pray, move your feet." African Proverb

"Here’s the lesson: Use your worldly resources to benefit others and make friends. Then, when your earthly possessions are gone, they will welcome you to an eternal home." Jesus Luke 16:9

“Be afraid to die until you have won some small victory for humanity.” --Horace Mann

After the Genocide of 800.000 in Rwanda “………following my return from Rwanda, a Canadian Forces padre asked me how, after all I had seen and experienced, I could still believe in God. I answered that I know there is a God because in Rwanda I shook hands with the devil. I have seen him, I have smelled him and I have touched him. I know the devil exists, and therefore I know there is a God."...... (LGen Romeo Dallaire “Shake hands with the Devil” pg xviii, 2003, Randon House Canada.)

Be Change Agents!

“Be afraid to die until you have won some small victory for humanity.” Horace Mann

"Privilege is being born on third base and thinking you hit a triple.” Ann Richards

“Some people see things as they are and say why? I dream things that never were and say why not?” Robert F. Kennedy

“The opposite of love is not hate. It is indifference.” Abraham Joshua Heschel

“Crisis is opportunity riding a dangerous wind.” Chinese proverb

“I am a little pencil in the hand of a writing God who is sending a love letter to the world.” Mother Theresa

“To do good, you actually have to DO something.” Yvon Chouinard

“Every day is a new chance to choose.” Ishita Gupta

“If you can’t feed a hundred people, feed just one.” Mother Theresa

“I’d rather learn from one bird how to sing, than to teach ten thousand stars how not to dance” e.e. cummings

“Education is the most powerful weapon which you can use to change the world.” Nelson Mandela

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Monday, July 22, 2013

What to "GIVE UP" Is A More Difficult Decision Than Deciding What to Do

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